Anger management at Feeling To Healing is one-to-one therapy for adults who want to stay calm under pressure, stop saying and doing things they regret, and protect their relationships and work. Our qualified psychologists use cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and practical skills, at our East London clinic or by secure video anywhere in the UK, and every new client starts with a free 20-minute consultation.

Clinically reviewed by Dr Carlo Demarco, PhD, Consultant Psychologist. Last updated October 2026.

Anger itself is a normal, healthy emotion. It tells us when something feels unfair or when a boundary has been crossed. The problem starts when it comes too fast, too often or too strongly: when you snap at the people you love, lose your temper at work, or feel like a different person when it takes over. If that sounds familiar, you are not a bad person, and you can learn to handle it differently.

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Signs of Anger Issues

Everyone gets angry sometimes. These are signs that anger may be causing problems for you or the people around you:

Anger can also be turned inwards, as harsh self-criticism or bottled-up resentment that leaks out as sarcasm, sulking or withdrawal. That counts too, and it can be just as damaging to your mood and relationships.

What Sits Behind Anger?

Anger is often called a “secondary emotion” because it usually sits on top of other feelings that are harder to show, such as hurt, fear, shame or feeling powerless. Anger feels stronger and safer than those feelings, so it rushes in first.

Common things that feed anger issues include:

• Stress and exhaustion: long hours, money worries, caring for others and poor sleep lower everyone’s fuse.
• Learned patterns: growing up around shouting or violence can make explosive anger feel normal.
• Past trauma: a nervous system that has learned to expect danger reacts fast and hard (see our trauma therapy page).
• Anxiety and depression: irritability is a common, often missed, sign of both (see anxiety treatment and therapy for depression).
• Alcohol and drugs: they lower self-control and make outbursts more likely (see addiction counselling).
• ADHD and other conditions: difficulty with impulses and frustration can show up as anger (see ADHD support).
• Unhelpful thinking habits: such as “they did it on purpose”, “it should not be like this” or “I must win this argument”.

How Anger Builds, and Where to Step In

Anger rarely comes out of nowhere, even when it feels that way. It usually follows a curve: a trigger, a build-up of tension and angry thoughts, an explosion, and then a cool-down full of tiredness and regret. Once anger reaches its peak, the thinking part of the brain goes “offline”, which is why it is so hard to stop at that point.

The good news is that the build-up stage gives you a window. Learning to spot your own early warning signs, such as a tight jaw, a hot face, a raised voice or thoughts like “here we go again”, means you can step in while you still have a choice. Much of therapy is about widening that window.

How Anger Management Therapy Helps

Anger management therapy is not about never feeling angry. It is about understanding your anger, being in charge of what you do with it, and expressing it in ways that get your needs met without hurting anyone. The NHS guide to getting help with anger notes that most programmes are based on CBT, which is the main approach we use.

With your psychologist you will:

• Map your anger: your triggers, warning signs and typical patterns, often using a simple anger diary.
• Understand what lies underneath: the hurt, fear, stress or old experiences that drive it.
• Change unhelpful thinking: using cognitive behavioural therapy to catch and test thoughts that pour fuel on the fire.
• Calm your body: breathing, muscle relaxation and grounding skills that you practise until they become automatic.
• Communicate assertively: saying what you feel and need clearly and calmly, without attacking or shutting down (see our communication skills page).
• Repair and rebuild: how to apologise well and rebuild trust after an outburst.

Skills You Will Learn

Who We Help

We work with adults from all walks of life. Some have struggled with anger issues for as long as they can remember; others have noticed their temper creeping up during a stressful period, after a bereavement, a breakup, a new baby or a difficult job. Some come because a partner, friend or manager has asked them to, and others because they have frightened themselves.

People often tell us they feel ashamed or worry about being judged. Our psychologists understand that anger usually comes from pain or pressure, not from being a bad person. Sessions are a calm, respectful space where you can be honest about what happens, without blame, and focus on what you want to be different, at home, at work and in yourself.

How It Works at Feeling To Healing

Each session lasts 55 minutes. Many people notice a difference within 6 to 10 sessions, although it depends on how long anger has been a problem and what sits behind it. Anger management therapy with us is always one-to-one, and you set the pace.

Online Anger Management Across the UK

Online anger management sessions by secure video work well for many people. You can join from home or a private room at work, there is no travel, and it is easier to fit sessions around a busy job or family life. Practising new skills in the same place where arguments tend to happen can even be an advantage.

All you need is a private space, a phone, tablet or computer, and a steady internet connection. Many clients choose online anger management because they live outside London, travel for work or want extra privacy. Read more about our video sessions.

Anger Management in London: Our Clinic

If you prefer to meet in person, we offer anger management in London at our clinic at 106 Empress Avenue, London E12 5EU, in East London. Many people who choose anger management in London find that a calm, neutral space away from home makes it easier to talk openly. Many clients mix clinic and video sessions as their week allows.

Meet Our Team

Feeling To Healing is a team, not a one-person practice. Anger management at our clinic is led by qualified psychologists, with other practitioners available when a whole-person plan helps.

Inas Hassan, our Certified Hypnotherapist, works with stress and burnout in Arabic, French and English (see hypnotherapy), and Hannah Norris, our Nutrition Consultant, can help with the eating and energy habits that affect mood. Our team also includes homeopaths Dr Anelia Dimitrova and Hafsa Hasan.

Anger at Home and in Relationships

Anger often does the most damage with the people we are closest to. Partners may stop sharing things to avoid a row, and arguments can follow the same painful script again and again. Working on your anger is one of the most caring things you can do for your relationship.

If you both want to change how you argue, our couples counselling and conflict resolution pages explain how we can help you together, once there is no violence or fear in the relationship.

Anger at Work

Losing your temper at work can cost you your reputation, promotions or even your job. Pressure, unfair treatment and long hours are real, and therapy is not about putting up with everything. It is about staying clear-headed enough to deal with problems in a way that works for you, including raising concerns firmly and calmly. Some clients come to us after feedback from a manager, and that is a good reason to start. Anger issues at work often ease quickly once you have a few reliable skills.

Tips You Can Use Right Now

• Notice your early signs: where do you feel anger first in your body? Name it: “I’m getting angry.”
• Pause before you respond: count slowly to ten, or take five slow breaths with a long out-breath.
• Leave if you need to: “I need ten minutes, then I’ll come back and talk.” Then do come back.
• Move your body: a brisk walk or exercise burns off the adrenaline.
• Avoid alcohol when tense: it makes outbursts far more likely.
• Talk about it later: problems are easier to solve when everyone is calm.
• Look after the basics: sleep, food and breaks make a big difference to your fuse.

If these tips are not enough, or anger issues keep coming back, anger management therapy can help you go further and make the changes last.

Safety: When Anger Becomes Harmful

Private Anger Management or the NHS?

On the NHS, your GP may refer you to a local anger management programme or counselling, and you can refer yourself to NHS Talking Therapies for free CBT. Availability and waiting times vary by area.

With private anger management at Feeling To Healing there is no waiting list and no referral, and your sessions are one-to-one with a psychologist, tailored to your own triggers and life. Our session fees are on our fees page. You pay us directly, as we do not bill insurance companies. If you have private health insurance, we give you a receipt after each session so that you can claim the cost back from your insurer yourself.

Frequently Asked Questions

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This page is for general information and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Reviewed by Dr Carlo Demarco, Consultant Psychologist, October 2026.