Many people think of compatibility as something fixed and formulaic, often basing it on stuff like having similar personalities or hobbies and interests in common.

But focussing on these kinds of factors can leave you feeling that when things aren’t going well there’s not a lot you can do. You can get stuck in the cycle of thinking ‘it’s not working because we’re so different, so what’s the point of trying?’

Human beings aren’t fixed and formulaic. As individuals, we’re constantly changing, growing and learning. Compatibility is enriched by how much time you spend together, how much you’re both willing to give and take and by your willingness to work together as a team.

Of course, it does help if you start off with certain things in common, but this is much more likely to be stuff like your values, beliefs and ideas – things that matter deep down. And even then, any relationship requires constant nuturing to maintain a strong connection.

If you’re worried about how compatible you and your partner are, our assessment will help. It will allow you to think about whether your values are in sync, how much effort you’re making to develop and maintain your compatibility, and look at what you can do to grow it together.