Healing Marriage After Conflicts and Fights

Healing Marriage After Conflicts and Fights

Marriage conflict Healing marriage after conflict couple having a conflict

To understand the healing of a conflict in marriage, or perhaps a trauma of partner infidelity, first we need to understand that in a long-term relationship like marriage, it’s not uncommon to face periods of disagreements, misunderstandings, arguments and even fights. These conflicts often strain the emotional connection between a couple and lead to a loss of intimacy. However, the good news is that it’s possible to reintroduce intimacy into your relationship even after a long period of discord. Here we will explore some strategies for rekindling intimacy and rebuilding a strong bond between  couples.

1. Communication is Key

One first step in restoring intimacy is to improve communication. Effective communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. It involves not just talking but truly listening to your partner’s thoughts and feelings. Create a safe space where both partners can express themselves without fear of judgment or anger. Use “I” statements to express your own feelings and concerns without placing blame. Healthy communication can help you both understand each other better and work through your disagreements.

2. Seek Healing Professional Help

If the conflicts are too entrenched, seeking the assistance of a licensed sex therapist or marriage counselor can be immensely beneficial. These professionals are trained to help couples navigate through their issues, provide strategies for improving intimacy, and guide you towards healthier ways of communicating and connecting. Their expertise can be a lifeline in difficult times.

3. Reconnect Emotionally For Healing

Intimacy isn’t just about physical connection; it also involves emotional bonding. Spend quality time together to rebuild the emotional connection that may have been eroded over time. Date nights, shared hobbies, or simply talking about your dreams and aspirations can help you reconnect on a deeper level. Embrace vulnerability and share your fears, hopes, and dreams with each other.

4. Explore Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy can be a vital part of rekindling a romantic relationship. Start by taking things slow. Begin with non-sexual physical touch, such as hugging, cuddling, or holding hands. As trust and emotional closeness are rebuilt, gradually work your way back to a fulfilling sex life. Don’t rush the process; it’s essential that both partners feel comfortable and ready.

5. Forgiveness and Healing

To heal a marriage, forgiveness is often essential. Let go of grudges and past grievances. Holding onto these negative feelings can be a barrier to emotional and physical intimacy. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself as well as your partner.

6. Invest in Self-Care

Take care of yourself individually. When you feel good about yourself, you bring positivity and confidence to the relationship. Focus on your physical and emotional well-being through exercise, hobbies, and self-improvement. This will not only boost your self-esteem but will also make you more attractive to your partner.


Rebuilding intimacy in a marriage after a prolonged period of disagreements and fights is a challenging but achievable endeavor. It requires patience, commitment, and a willingness to work together as a team. Effective communication, professional help when needed, emotional re-connection, physical intimacy, forgiveness, and self-care are all important aspects of this journey. With effort and dedication, you can rediscover the love and passion that brought you together in the first place, creating a stronger and more resilient marriage.

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Dr Demarco

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